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Member Stories

Real lifestyle experiences shared by the SecretFantasy community

Bar Hopping

So we decided last Friday night to go for a drink in town so at the first garden bar it was very loaded and crowded so off to next one , second one also not our taste cause yea …….. off to the next one actually not just …

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I never expected a wedding to turn into one of the hottest nights of my life.

I showed up alone in a tight long black dress that hugged my curves and dipped low enough to draw plenty of eyes, the weeknd weather was not forgiving mthe Winelands was wet and the weather was shit!. No plus-one, no b…

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Payment

Long story short , i had to let do something at an engineering shop here in Swakop , wife was with me in the car , spoke to a young guy about 30 in front of the car explain to him what i want him to do for me on the Jeep…

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Discussions, tutorials and tips from the SecretFantasy kink community

🪢 Shibari & Rope

Elite tie

Some of you who were at the Elite party in December may remember seeing this tie done outside. Thanks to Howitzer for the tie and the experience.

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💬 General Discussion

Vaginal Fisting: Understanding the Myths and the Facts

# Vaginal Fisting: Understanding the Myths, the Facts, and the Importance of Safety For many people entering the world of BDSM and kink, vaginal fisting is one of the most misunderstood activities. It's often portraye…

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📚 Kink Education

Wax On, Wax Off: A Beginner's Guide to Not Setting Yourself on Fire

Wax On, Wax Off: A Beginner's Guide to Not Setting Yourself on Fire (Ps. This is a picture of me, the Mrs during wax play) Let's start with the most important rule of wax play: Not all candles are created equal. …

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The Column

Lifestyle articles and columns written by the SecretFantasy community

Lifestyle

How we got to our first Swingers Party Part I

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Lifestyle

Don’t compare being different is ok

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Lifestyle

Jealousy...and Swingers...we all feel it! Some Time...

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